Anonymous asked: HELP. so theres this guy.. and i really like him, a lot. we've been bestfriends for like forever because he was dating a really good friend of mine, in fact a best friend of mine. they broke up and since then they have both done a lot of things with other people. he recently decided to inform me that he likes me as well. which of course made me like him even more. i really wanna be with him, but how am i supposed to tell my bestfriend that?? idk how she will take it, and i dont know what to do. help! please!

okay so most of the time, not the burst your bubble, and dont give up everything, just saying, exes should be off-limits. period. but, the catch to that is something that you have to decide on.. this is the question, is this relationship worth losing your friendship with girl over? if you think that this could just be a fun fling thing that wont work out in the end, or maybe that its something you both want, but you just cant make work because your past makes it awkward, DONT do it! but, if you feel like this could be a relationship that you would regret passing up later, and you really feel could go a good distance, go for it. just know that you could lose your friend who previously dated him. there is the chance that she wont care, and everything will be fine. but because youre kind of walking on eggshells about it, instincts tell me that you think she might kind of be bothered by the fact that not only now you will be dating her ex man, but on top of that, you were attracted to him at least somewhat that entire time she was with him. she has every right to be upset, and not be okay with you anymore, but if you know her, you probably already know how she will react, youre just a little nervous to make it happen. good luck to you, and i hope if you do go for it, the 2 of you have a great time in the relationship and that regardless of the friend, you find what youre looking for. much love,
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Anonymous asked: its the anon with the belly button ring, it healed fine last time, someone ripped it out so i had to let it re-heal and get it re-done :( and yeah all i wear is titanium and surgical steel because im allergic to everything else, so its all good quality. i just got new ones and im just dyingggg to change it :/

alright, well i know its always best to wait as long as you can, only because when you change it youre really disturbing those really new sensitive tissues. im just wary of messing with things like that because ive had TONS of issues with my own piercings. i say wait at LEAST 6 weeks, then do it. im sure the piercer jewelry is cute too, dont worry!
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Anonymous asked: so i got my belly button re-peirced three and a half weeks ago. i want to change it soooo bad! how long do you think i really need to wait to change it? not take it out and leave it out, but take it out and put a different one in right away?

i would assume since you re-pierced it it didnt heal correctly last time, no? id say to be on the safe side you should wait as long as you possibly can resist, and at the very least 6 to 8 weeks. youll have it forever if you want, so theres no need to rush the healing and ruin it. also, make sure when you finally do, you use a good quality piece of jewelry that your body wont reject like something without nickel. id recommend some stainless steel or sterling silver. good luck!
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Anonymous asked: concerning that anons question about virginity... I once bled a bit after bike riding so I don't know if im virgin or not :( but i never had sex with anyone, would that heal the hymen or whatever? i know its a stupid question but i didnt actually have sex with anyone to lose virginity so idk if i am or not after the bike incident (it happened 10 years ago)

your hymen wont heal back if its broken, but that has nothing to do with your virginity. if you have never had sex, you are without a doubt a one hundred percent virgin. no matter if you broke your hymen, and never let a guy tell you that you must be lying if you dont bleed. youre a virgin. much love,
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Anonymous asked: Does a girl bleed a lot when she loses her virginity? I mean is it always noticeable that she bleeds or not??

it completely depends on the girl. some girls will bleed a significant amount, some will bleed just a tiny bit, and some dont at all. Im sure you know that you are bleeding because your hymen, a tiny piece of skin covering the vaginal opening, is being torn. sometimes, a girl will tear hers using a tampon, horseback riding, or doing any kind of sports or strenuous activity and a lot of times when this happens, she probably wont even know. so, if she doesnt bleed at all, shes not lying to you. and if she happens to bleed a lot, dont be scared. everything will be fine. good luck!
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Anonymous asked: So, i don't really know how else to say it.
but I'm 99% sure i'm bisexual, but the 1% i'm not sure of is because I've never been with a girl, but always attracted to them/turned on, etc. I want to try something with another girl, to find out, but noone knows that i'm bi.
I don't want to come out an realize im not actually bi, i don't know how else to explain it, i guess now im just rambling, but how do i know i am 100% bisexual, & how do i come out to my friends and family?

99% percent is quite a lot, i think you should really try to think about it without everyone else involved. if it didnt matter what your friends and family thought, and there was absolutely no taboo, how would you feel? Id say if youre open to doing physical things with a girl (like further than kissing) there is a pretty good change youre bi. but, things like this arent necessarily always a straight up yes or no. there are no rules and guidelines about how you define your sexuality, its entirely up to you. you may only be attracted to one girl, or you might feel this way, but eventually marry a man and feel fine with that too, or you may end up with a woman in the end. all of that is totally up to you. if youre interested in pursuing a relationship with a girl, maybe you can try to find one that is out of your normal circle of friends and acquaintances to take some of the pressure off, and then just see how you feel. if youre worried it might just be a phase or something and that you would tell everyone and then change your mind later on, just hold off telling them until you know its a definite part of who you are. If you get to that point just know that if your friends and family really love you, which they do, they wont see you any differently. there is nothing more beautiful for you to do than to be yourself. good luck, and dont stress, just give it time.
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Anonymous asked: i had sex with this girl. and she told me she has had sex with 5 other guys. that's not what bugs me. but i had sex with her and she bleed. she said that she wasn't on her period it should have been over 1 days before. however the blood that was there was really bright red. i have had sex before with girls that are on their period. and the blood i have seen isn't bright bright red and runny. i don't know what to do. i thought period blood was darker more clumpyish... gagf! lol but im not a girl. also. you think there could be a chance this girl was a virgin and did not say so to look cooler? i really don't know please helpp!

alright so, this is probably much more girly information that you will ever want to know, but the majority of the time youre on your period, it is bright red and runny blood. the darker clumpier blood comes at the beginning or end, because its older, drier blood. so there are a few things that couldve been going on; first, if she was only supposed to be finished with her period one day earlier, it could have very well been period blood. secondly, you could have taken her virginity, but usually that doesnt involve a large amount of blood, and did she act like she had had sex before? did she seem experienced or like she was looking to you for what to do next? lastly, there is a possibility that you scratched her on the inside during foreplay. this is probably pretty unlikely, but possible. so either way, do you have feelings for this girl? or was it just a one time thing? either way, you shouldnt feel weird about the situation just because you possibly took her virginity without knowing.. since she told you that she wasnt a virgin, thats all you can go by, and if she was lying to you, you could take it as a compliment that she was trying to impress you. on the other hand its very likely that she was just still on her period, and again you should be flattered that she felt like having sex with you during that. i totally see how creepy it would feel to wonder if this girl is being straight up with you, but maybe next time see if you can get to know the girl a little better before you have sex with her so youll be better at reading her. good luck and dont stress out, youre a conscientious guy and i like that. much love,
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Anonymous asked: okay so, I've had sex with my boyfriend..but I've never given him head. He's asked for it, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I want to, because he's returned the favor, but for some reason i haven't. Maybe i'm scared. Ugh, i don't know, help!

hmm, i can totally understand why its intimidating the first few times, but thats only because youre probably concerned that you might do it wrong or that he wont like it. but, i absolutely guarantee you there is no way hes gonna be disappointed or not like it in any way. to me at least, its a very personal thing, even more than sex. i promise that he will be so thrilled he wont even know what to do with himself, and on top of that, theres basically no way you can do it wrong unless you bite him or something weird like that.. just go ahead and do it one day, put your hand at the base of his penis if its long enough for you to do so, then just do what you think youre supposed to do (because that is what youre supposed to do) and youll be able to please him more than ever before. if after that you still feel kind of unsure of what youre doing, dont be afraid to ask him. he will be nothing but appreciative. good luck!
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moneaayhungray asked: my boyfriend like to have anal..is anal better than vagina? well mine atleast

i think its kind of different for everyone. some guys like it, some guys dont, and regardless of that, its up to you. if you want to do it, give it a try, if you dont, dont let him pressure you. if you decide that its something you want to do, or are already doing, just make sure you take it slow, use lots of lube, and know that your body is not necessarily made to have anal sex. your vaginal walls can expand and contract, and you anus does the same thing, but not nearly as much. so, its definitely not something you should be doing daily. but, if you enjoy it, and he does as well, then its something to do, but its not that its better than vaginal sex. just different.
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